Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Summer's almost over, and it's time to ditch that sexy Scorpio surf champion who rode the waves into your heart. No matter what sign your soon-to-be ex-fling is, breaking up is never easy. Seasons change, or a new person captures your heart, and suddenly you're in the difficult position of letting someone go. You can make it easier, though, if you communicate in a way the other person can understand, and if you prepare for the reaction you're likely to get.

Aries (March 21 to April 19)
The Ram has a hot temper, but also gets over things quicker than most. Expect an outburst, no matter how gently you break the news. Make it about you, not them. Explain your need for more freedom, rather than detailing their shortcomings. And wait until you break up before seeing someone else, or you'll really have a fight on your hands.

If you're an Aries: You may regret any impetuous words. Refusing to badmouth your former flame shows you're the bigger person, and helps the transition go more smoothly.
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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)
Bulls are known for steadfastness: They will stick by you through thick and thin. Unless really pushed, a Taurus rarely initiates a breakup, preferring a comfortable rut to the chaos of change. Anticipate resistance. Discuss things with the Bull ahead of time, so it becomes more of a mutual decision. You'll encounter less resistance if you're in agreement about what's not working.

If you're a Taurus: It's hard for you to let go. In fact, your friends may insist you end a relationship for your own good. Follow through, because you deserve to be truly happy.
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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)
The Twins replay conversations over and over in their minds, trying to figure out how things could have turned out differently. Choose your words carefully and answer all their questions. Once they understand, they can get over it. They'll also rehash the breakup with whomever will listen. Think of it as therapy -- not gossip -- and cut them some slack.

If you're a Gemini: The changeability that drives others crazy works to your advantage in a breakup. You can rationalize things and move on -- just be gentle with those who can't.
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Cancer (June 21 to July 22)
The Crab forms deep bonds and doesn't let go easily. Even if you're not right for each other, sensitive and giving Cancer needs your acknowledgment. Saying something like, "You'll always have a special place in my heart," helps the Crab move on. But don't expect to be friends right away -- give them plenty of time to get over it.

If you're a Cancer: Like the Crab, you tend to sidestep difficult issues without clearly voicing your needs or frustrations. Be up front -- not everyone is as sensitive as you.
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Leo (July 23 to Aug. 22)
To avoid injuring the legendary Leonine pride, take this person out to a nice dinner. Thank them for all they've done for you before breaking the news. If you felt neglected or mistreated, be tactful about it. "We just don't meet each other's needs anymore" works well. The Lion will be glad you spared his or her dignity and will be less prone to wrathful judgment.

If you're a Leo: You're more comfortable dumping someone else than the other way around. First, ask yourself whether you're expecting too much from the other person.
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Virgo (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22)
Virgos work hard at making you happy and fixing your problems, and may not realize they're trying too hard. If they've been overly giving or too industrious at pointing out your faults, talk about ways you can create more balance before giving up on the relationship. If this is not possible, illustrate what's not working for you to make the breakup easier.

If you're a Virgo: Don't recite a long list of reasons for the breakup. Others don't need to analyze things the way you do -- heartfelt compassion and gratitude will go much farther.
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