Dating Bad Boys
From the Blog of "SisterOthelia" a Psychic Advisor,
You thought this dating experience would be different that somehow this "Bad Boy" would be a "good" partner. But you find yourself following a similar pattern of attraction, becoming involved and suddenly being dumped when the relationship seems ready to take a serious direction.
DID YOU SEE THE SIGNS?
Your Prince Charming is always happy, always up. He is magical and too good to be true.
He comes on like a storybook dream lover even if he is in another relationship.
Your guy has a problem with sticking to plans and keeps canceling dates.
You think you can depend on him, and just when you really need him, he disappears (perhaps even blaming you as the reason).
He convinces you that he is different from the others who have hurt you. Just when you feel safe to open up, he gets cold feet and moves on.
Perhaps not recognizing the signs, you move on and find another person who in some way captures as similar an "essence" as the last person you loved. You are convinced that this guy is different. What was that similar "spark", that "essence" that drew you to him even if his "costume" was totally different than that of the last partner?
WHAT IS THAT "BAD BOY" SPARK OR ESSENCE?
"Bad Boys" evoke a craving and longing. You feel lonely without them but also with them because your longing cannot be satisfied.
You see them as a free spirit. They come and go when they want.
Euphoric sex! You feel that you will never again experience such pleasure.
You want their joy their carefree spirit is appealing (but is also the same spirit with which they treat your relationship).
They seem magnificently confident. You initially feel safe and more confident yourself in their presence.
They seem just like you! (Or just like the image you want to project).
Perhaps you are reading this because you are tired of bashing your head into walls over and over again. "Bad Boys" are just not fun anymore. Suddenly, a "Good Boy", the person you previously wouldn't look at twice, moves into your radar and stays there. Things that did not excite you before now begin to look very good. After multiple disappointments, betrayals and breakups, trustworthiness is looking like a very attractive quality that "Good Boys" might embody.
WHAT ARE THE SIGNS OF TRUST?
Your potential lover treats you and others with respect.
Your guy is patient with you.
When in a position of leadership, he leads with wisdom and kindness.
Good guys often give unconditionally (perhaps more than they should).
"Home" is where your true partner's heart is.
When your fellow travels, you can trust him.
"Bad Boys" are very tempting and thats okay. They are like trying on the wrong size of clothing in the dressing room or like having the 7th piece of chocolate when you should have stopped at 3 pieces. But a "Good Boy" will ultimately feel like the right fit and your relationship will be so much more long-lasting and satisfying.
