Should I Call Him?
From the Blog of "Jennifer9" a Psychic Advisor on Keen,
He doesn't call. You try to wait it out but are driven by your impatience, anxiety, frustration or whatever other impulse takes hold of you. You don't know why he doesn't at least call some of the time. You are the one who initiates all of the contact. And now you feel compelled to call again. DONT CALL!
It is time to reclaim control. Stop calling and take control of yourself and your life. Women spend too much time waiting, avoiding plans with friends and avoiding things that involve leaving their phone at home or out of range for the "just in case" factor.
Why men might not call:
Many men don't like talking too much about things, especially on the phone
Men don't like drama and emotional head games
They KNOW the woman is going to eventually call
They know they don't have to put an ounce of effort into the partnership as long as the woman keeps calling
Some men are just not good communicators on the telephone and truly are better company in person so calls should be reserved for plans and updates. Also, some men are not going to call if they think you are going to fight with them or engage in some kind of drama that is actually good judgment on their part. But if your guy is just not putting any effort into connecting with you, then you have a problem.
Have you ever noticed that you get the phone call you want once you stop waiting? That's the great thing about energy. The minute you shift your anxious focus off someone, they feel it. That's when they call. Everything has a vibration and there's nothing more stinging and familiar to a man than the vibration of a woman waiting on them. They feel it, they may not know what it is but they feel it.
Let's say you decide to go out and really have fun without him - that's when you're going to hear from the guy. So what do you say when he calls? Just say politely that you're busy at the moment and that you'll call him back later. Don't say, "I'll call you in 37 minutes, ok?" Just say, "Later" - it will drive him crazy! Better yet, let the call go to voicemail, or wait an hour or two before responding to that text message.
The results will most likely not be immediate, so give it a month. Truly give it a month. It may take a few weeks before that guy actually calls you. This is probably because you have conditioned him to believe that you're going to call. He might even think that you haven't called yet because of PMS or a bad mood...and don't take offense because he's not calling to check up on you...if he thinks you're in a bad mood, he's not going to risk being the target of a rant or a berating.
Men don't respect what's easy; they need a chase once in a while. If you become a challenge, he will be motivated to "catch" and "conquer" you and will have to call and try to make plans. You will start to feel happier because you won't be the only one putting effort into the communication. And you can give your dialing fingers a rest.
