Making Time with the "Transitional Man"
From the Blog of "Brigid Bishop" a Psychic Advisor,
"Transitional Men" are the guys that we spend time with in between our major love relationships. We usually consider them to be "friends" who have a deeper interest in us. They serve as a bridge between breaking up to making up, or to a new love. We've all had them. Oh, come on, don't lie or try to fool yourself, he's...
Your lunchtime buddy at work who always wants you to meet up with him for a drink. He listens to all your cares and concerns about your romantic misadventures and may well be lending an ear to get closer to some of your body parts.
The guy you met on the Internet dating service that looks great on paper, (or online), but just doesnt have that "chemistry" we need.
The man that chases and pursues us when our egos are bruised and eventually we just give in because it feels good to be appreciated.
But just the same, a key ingredient to the potion that causes us to "fall in love" is missing. Remember, the term "Transitional Man" applies to that gentleman whom we are dating casually, but not likely to form a permanent relationship with because although he may be a great guy, he's just not in possession of the qualities that we need.
A mistake that women frequently make while utilizing this transitional period as a growth opportunity, is to try to force a round peg into a square hole and make a "Transitional Man" into the "Significant Other". Why do we allow this to happen?
We get trapped in transition! We've accepted that the former relationship with our beloved is over and need to move on; however, we stay with our "transitional" mate too long and don't move forward successfully into a new and healthy relationship with a new partner.
Pay attention to the feelings that arise when you question whether this guy might be right for you - or if it is time to move forward. Listen to those feelings, don't ignore them, and don't just let things ride because they are comfortable and familiar. Step back and make the appropriate choice. Don't be afraid to end it with your "Transitional Man". Every man you date IS NOT a potential life mate.
While you are in between relationships, or just recently coming out of a relationship, use your time with a "Transitional Man" wisely and learn to RECOGNIZE that the guy's purpose in your life may not be to become your life partner, but just to keep you company for a little while until you DO find your next Significant Other.
